Sunday, 9 October 2011, 08:43
Love's Secret Language
I went to this Tea Talk on Saturday 8/10/11, organized by Great Eastern.
It's a talk on love and relationships which not only focus on lovers but family too.
The ticket wrote 1pm-5.15pm. So me and my mom reached around 12.45pm.
When we went to the registration counter, we were told that 1-2pm was for registration, the talk started at 2pm.
We were like LOL. shouldn't came so early.
Anyway, luckily we did, because the hallway was full of people, waiting to get into the hall before 2pm.
Food and tea were served in the hallway before we enter the hall.
There were some stalls along the hallway, like
MPH (selling some motivational and children's book)
Blackmores (30%off on most of the supplements)
BP (promoting body checkups' package for family)
Photo shooting (rm2 for one and it's for Charity!)
Me and my mom took 2 photos and I prefer this one cause both of us are smiling!
Say Cheese~
Nesvita Omega Plus (Sampling and Cholesterol checking)
My mom gt 4.01, considered average. =D
And mine. -.- unreadable.
The girl said is because mine was too LOW. However, low cholesterol is better than high.
2pm!
Everyone rushing into the hall and because of the photo shooting, we went in late but still manage to get 2 good view seats. (under the air-cond LOL)
Those who came in very late were searching for seats, especially big groups, had to split.
A Dato was giving an opening speech. (forgotten who he is =X but manage to rmb pieces of what he said)
He said he was surprised being invited by Great Eastern as guest of honour of this talk.
Because Great Eastern is all about insurance, which have nthg to do with love's secret language.
However, he finds this topic interesting and hope everyone can benefits from this talk.
Here comes the Speaker of the day, Dick Cheng!
He is a famous speaker from Hong Kong and is involved in a lot of societies such as marriage consultation and he worked in the insurance field for more than 10 years.
Go to 夫子俱乐部 where you can read all about him and what he does.
I am just gonna summarize the talk because I am not as good as him in delivering his beliefs. =X
First part of the talk, he talked about the relationship between parents and children.
Relationship between lovers came in the second part.
Trust is the key to build a harmony relationship and give praises whenever you can.
He said, even after centuries, the Chinese are still reluctant to give compliments and praises.
Have faith in your children/parents/lovers, give praises that they are being great, spread the positive energy and you will have a long harmony relationship.
Don't criticize, cause when you do, you are being *selfish*.
You should do what is best for the world, for those around you. Not asking those around to give what you want or do what you thought is the best.
When you start disliking what your children/parents do/look, you demand for changes and that's when the love fading.
There is a reason when we say love is blind.
When relationship is surrounded by love, you accept the weaknesses of the other parties.
When love starts fading, you couldn't accept those weaknesses anymore and they become your reason of a breaking relationship.
Never destroy children's dreams. Because these dreams are where the invention of planes, phone and rocket came from.
Imagine that long long time ago, your son said he wants to go to the moon and live. You scolded him and asked him to concentrate on his studies, there is no such thing as living on the moon. He listened to you because you were his role model, he learned everything from you. Then, there won't be rocket existing, we wouldn't know that the surface of the moon actually is not as smooth as it seems.
Give them the space to dream and give courage to them to make those dreams come true. No matter how silly those dreams are. Because sanity is what we need lesser in our life.
There is no such thing as 旺夫(Vanves) or 克夫 (quebracho) , nvr believe those movie where husband is dead after a few day of marriage because the wife 克夫.
However there are 后天旺夫 or 克夫. (don't *huh?!?!* you said there is no?)
Imagine when your husband bring a lot of work come home and say he has to finish it tonight and has no time to accompany you watch your favorite movie.
Wife A shows her black face and say 'everytime also say busy work, it's not like you are going to get promoted even thou you work your ass off. Those little salary, every night also OTOT! I know you don't like that movie, purposely bring so much work so that you don't have to watch the movie right!'
This kinda women is call 后天克夫.
All his dreams and courage will be destroyed and this will bring no good to himself as well as his family.
Eventually, the relationship won't last and which is why the existence of mistress.
Wife B go and give a light shoulder massage to her husband saying 'Aww I know you must be very tired now after a long day work, nevermind, we can download that movie to watch next time. I go and make some green tea for you! I am sure your extra effort will be noticed by your boss one day, I know you have the ability to shine!'
This kinda women is call 后天旺夫.
If you start giving compliments and positive energy, courage and trust is born and this further strengthen the relationship between the lovers.
Omg. I can go on and on like this. There were so much to write. and I believe that he had so much more to tell us than those few hours speech. I wished I can learn more from him and his beliefs.
Of course, he told A LOT of Jokes! So the talk wasn't dead boring about humanity.
He is such an amazing man, and thru what he told us, I can see that he has a happy family. :)
Labels: Bite of Life, Moments
